Momwe mungalandirirere mimba yosakonzekera

Yulia Shubina amagwira ntchito ngati mkonzi pakampani yayikulu, amalemba blog yokhudza freelancing ndipo amalandira 100-150 zikwi pamwezi. Amakonzekera dongosolo la bizinesi ya projekiti yake yatsopano pomwe adazindikira kuti akuyembekezera mwana. Tidamufunsa Yulia kuti afotokozere momwe adasankhira kulandira mimba yake, osachita manyazi ndiukwati "pa ntchentche" ndikumanganso zolinga zake pamoyo. 

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Ine sindine heroine yemwe nthawi zambiri amapemphedwa kuti alembe zolemba zokhudza moyo wake. Nkhani yanga ndi yachilendo momwe ndingathere. Ndipo mwina ndichifukwa chake zingakhale zothandiza. Ndikulemba izi kuti ndikukumbutseni: malingaliro aliwonse a mtsikana woyembekezera ndizofala. Komanso lingaliro lililonse loyenera pokhudzana ndi mimba.

Mavuto

Zomwe zikuchitika m'moyo wanga panthawi yomwe ndidakhala ndi pakati sizingatchulidwe koyambirira kwabwino kubereka.

  • Ndinangoyamba kugwira ntchito ndi katswiri wamaganizidwe omwe anandiuza kuti: “Zili bwino kuti ulibe mwamuna ndi ana. Chifukwa chake mavuto anu adzathetsedwa mwachangu komanso kosavuta. "
  • Ubale ndi bambo a mwanayo unali utasokonekera. Ichi chinali chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe ndinapitira kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo.
  • Ndidabwerera kuchokera ku pulogalamu yoyambira kwa achinyamata achiyuda ndipo ndimakonzekera njira yakukwaniritsira ku Israel. Lingaliro linali lalikulu: kupita ku Dziko Lolonjezedwa, kukapulumutsa onse obwerera kwawo (otchedwa osamukira omwe amabwerera kudziko lakwawo - cholembedwa ndi mkonzi) kuchokera ku ulova… Zachidziwikire, kuchita izi ndi munthu wam'ng'ono m'manja mwanu sikungakhale kophweka konse.
  • Chaka chimodzi izi zisanachitike, thupi langa linali ndi vuto lalikulu. Masana ndinkadzala ndi mikwingwirima kuyambira kumutu mpaka kumapazi, ndipo magazi adayamba kutuluka m'kamwa mwanga, masaya anga ndi lilime langa. Zidapezeka kuti kuchuluka kwanga kwa ma platelet kunatsika kwambiri. Anandipeza ndi matenda a Werlhof. Kenako, mu Ogasiti 2018, ndidalangizidwa mwamphamvu kuti ndisakhale ndi pakati osachepera chaka chimodzi. Ndipo zidachitika mu Ogasiti 2019 okha.
  • Kuntchito, adalembetsedwa ngati wabizinesi payekha. Izi zikutanthauza kuti sindinali woyenera kulandira lamuloli mwachizolowezi. 
  • Chibwenzi changa ndi ine sitinakwatirane mwalamulo. Ngakhale adatcha ubale wawo "ukwati wapabanja".

Mikwingwirima iwiri

Ndi thanzi la amayi, ndakhala ndikukonzekera nthawi zonse. Chifukwa chake, sindine m'modzi mwa omwe akudziwa za mimba yanga m'mwezi wachinayi okha. Inde, zidapezeka kuti pali atsikana otere. Chifukwa chake, ngati mungadzipezere pakati pasanathe milungu 12 ndikulembetsa kuchipatala cha amayi oyembekezera, boma lidzakulipirani chifukwa chololedwa usilikali.

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Ndinapeza zosayembekezereka kale mu sabata lachisanu. Kuchedwa kutangotha ​​masiku atatu, ndidayamba kuchita mantha. Nditagula mayeso, ndidayimbira mnzake wapamtima. Chifukwa chake mlengalenga timadikirira zotsatira za mankhwala. Malingaliro m'mutu mwanga anali mulu. Kenako, pamapeto pake, mzere umodzi udawonekera pamayeso. Ndinaseka, ndikupepesa mzanga ndikuyamba kumutsanzika, pomwe mwadzidzidzi mzere wachiwiri udatuluka. Kenako ndinayamba kulira.

Panali chisoni, chisokonezo ndi mantha m'misozi iyi. Koma koposa zonse, kunalinso misozi yachisangalalo. Chisangalalo podziwa kuti "kamunthu kakang'ono kakukhala mwa inu", kuti "tsopano mayi m'modzi wabadwa mdziko lapansi"… Mwambiri, zonse zomwe zalembedwa pamabwalo azimayi. Chimwemwe ichi chinali mwa ine. Koma zidasakanikirana ndimamiliyoni ena, ndipo pazifukwa zina palibe amene amachenjeza za izi. 

Umu ndi momwe mwana amaonekera kumayambiriro kwa mwezi wachiwiri. Ndikukonzekera kugulitsa chithunzichi pa REN-TV ndikunena kuti ndi UFO.

Mndandanda wokwanira

Pozindikira mwa ine chisangalalo ndi zina zofunika, monga momwe zimawonekera kwa ine, kutengeka, ndidaganiza zotembenukira ku gawo langa lomveka, mpaka ndidadzala ndimadzi. Ndipo sindinaganize zabwinoko kuposa kulembetsa mndandanda. Ankafunika kuti amvetsetse kuti ndine wokonzeka 100% kukhala ndi mwana tsopano.

Mndandandawo unkawoneka motere:

  • Ndimakambirana ndi bambo a mwanayo chilichonse chomwe chimandidetsa nkhawa, ngakhale chosasangalatsa kwenikweni. Chibwenzi chathu chidatha mosavomerezeka chifukwa sindinatero.
  • Ndimadziyikira ndekha mikhalidwe yomwe palibe amene angandithandize. Inde, tsopano makolo anga ndi achichepere ndipo ali ndi kuthekera kwachuma kundithandiza. Ndipo bambo wa mwana wanga ali pafupi nane ndipo ndi wokonzeka kuthandiza 24/7. Koma bwanji ngati zonse zasintha? Kodi ndili wokonzeka kukhala mayi wosakwatiwa? 
  • Ndimapita kwa wama psychologist ndikumufunsa kuti akaweruze moyenera ngati denga langa lapita. Pempho langa kwa katswiri linali loti andithandize kumvetsetsa momwe ndikwanira popangira zisankho zambiri. Ndipo kodi ndingadzidalire.

"Tandiuza, bwanji anthu amabereka ana?"

Pakuchezera kwathu ndi katswiri wama psychology, ndidakwanitsa kumubwezera mafunso odabwitsa kwambiri. Nthawi ino, kuti ndimvetsetse bwino, ndidamufunsa chifukwa chomwe anthu amafunira kukhala ndi ana. Zinali, zachidziwikire, pazifukwa zokwanira komanso "zathanzi" zokha.

Nazi zomwe katswiri wama psychology adayankha: 

  • Mukusangalala ndikumverera kwachinyengo. Mumakonda kucheza ndi banja lanu ndipo mumalimbikitsidwa ndi omwe muli nawo pafupi. Kapena mwina mulibe kumverera uku, chifukwa ubale ndi abale siabwino kwenikweni.
  • Mukufuna wokondedwa. Mukufuna kubereka cholengedwa chomwe chikhala ngati inu ndipo chidzalumikizana nanu. Osati kusokonezedwa ndi "kupanga kapolo yemwe angathetse mavuto anu amoyo wonse."
  • Mukufuna kusiya chizindikiro m'mbiri.
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Mayankho awa adandithandizira. Ndidakhazikika mtima ndipo ndidazindikira kuti lingaliro lidali loyenera, momwe angathere. Mafunso enanso adatsalira.

Ntchito ndi zinsinsi zaubwino

Kuti mumvetse kuchuluka kwa momwe ndimakhalira munthu "pantchito", muyenera kundidziwa ine ndekha. Mmodzi mwa makasitomala anga akulu ndi hh.ru. Kwa iwo, ndimalemba zolemba pafupifupi tsiku ndi tsiku zokhudzana ndi ntchito, kuyambiranso koyenera, kusaka ntchito. Pambuyo pakuphulika kwa bomba chaka chimodzi, mutuwu ukanakhoza kutopa pang'ono, ndipo ndinayambanso blog pa Instagram. Komanso za ntchito. Ndipo adayamba kulemba zochulukirapo tsiku lililonse.

Mwachidule, moyo wopanda ntchito ndiwosatheka kwa ine. Koma ndidanena kale kuti ndidapangidwa ngati wabizinesi payekha. 

Izi zikutanthauza kuti sindine wotetezedwa ndi Code Labour. Nditha kuthamangitsidwa "tsiku limodzi", osapumira milungu iwiri ndikugwira ntchito. Komanso, ndilibe ufulu wokhala ndi tchuthi chodwala kapena tchuthi chobadwira. 

Chifukwa chake sindinayenera kungoganiza za momwe ndingagwirire tchuthi cha amayi oyembekezera, komanso momwe ndingawadziwitsire makasitomala anga za mimba komanso zomwe angandiuze.

Sizinakhale zosangalatsa monga ndimayembekezera. Woyang'anira wanga ku hh.ru anandiyamika ndipo tinagwirizana kuti ndidzatsala. Ndingotenga tchuthi changa chachizolowezi cha mwezi umodzi asanabadwe, kenako ndikupita kuntchito ndikuphatikiza ndikulera mwana. Mwamwayi, ndili patali. Ndipo koyambirira kwa Januware, abwana adalengeza kuti andipatsanso mwezi umodzi wolipira: iye ndi anzawo azindisintha ngati zingatheke. Anali wamunthu kwambiri kwa iye, ndipo ndimathokoza kwambiri ndikusunthidwa naye.

Uku ndikukupatsani zokambirana zama telefoni ku Business Space ya Boma la Moscow

Kuphatikiza apo, ndidaphunzira kuti pali lamulo kwa amalonda. Koma mumangopeza malipiro ochepa, ndiye kuti sizopindulitsa konse. 

Kodi ndili wachisoni kuti sindikuyembekezeka kukhala ndi tchuthi cha umayi kunyumba zaka zitatu, monga "anthu wamba" omwe ali ndi mgwirizano pantchito? Zochepa. Koma, mbali inayi, monga katswiri pantchito, ine ndekha nthawi zonse ndimalangiza omwe andilembetsa kuti akhalebe ndi ziyeneretso zawo akakhala patchuthi cha makolo. 

Ukwati "pa ntchentche"

Takhala limodzi zaka zinayi tsopano, ndipo funso laukwati limabwera nthawi ndi nthawi, koma nthawi zonse timalithetsa. Sizinali choncho, panalibe ndalama zaukwatiwo, ndipo kwa ife zimawoneka ngati zopusa kukwatira popanda malo athu okhala. Nditakhala ndi pakati, nkhaniyi idathetsedwa mosavuta. Tinaganiza kuti zingakhale bwino kukwatira, ndipo titha kudziteteza ku zotupa zosafunikira za boma. Zachidziwikire, m'modzi amatha kungosaina, koma ndimakonda tchuthi. Chifukwa chake tidakonza ukwati wawung'ono wa anthu 25.

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Momwemo, sindinabisalire alendo kuti ndinali ndi pakati, ndipo sindinayese kubisa mimba yanga. Zinali zofunika ngakhale kwa ine kuti aliyense adziwe kuti tidzakhala ndi mwana. 

Ndinali nditatopa ndi vuto la "ukwati wapaulendo." Ukwatiwo, pambuyo pathupi, umalumikizidwabe ndi ambiri omwe adasokonekera komanso kusakhala bwino. Poterepa, mkwatibwi akuwoneka kuti aliyense ndi wotayika, yemwe sakanatha "kumangirira mwamunayo". Ndipo mkwati ndi woyamwa yemwe wanyengedwa. 

Ndidasankha diresi laukwati kawiri. Ndipo izi ndizothamanga kwambiri, kupatsidwa mimba yochepa, yomwe imatha kukula nthawi iliyonse komanso pamlingo wosadziwika.

Munthu yekhayo amene ndinasankha kuti ndisalankhulenso ndi agogo anga aakazi a zaka 85. Ndikudziwa kuti malingaliro olakwika omwe ali mwa ife si chifukwa choti ndife oyipa kapena ochepa. Ndipo popeza zidachitika mbiriyakale. Zolingalira komanso miyambo, zimathandizira chikhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe. Ndipo tikamakula, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti tilandire malamulo atsopano komanso kuchuluka kwa ufulu womwe anthu amatsegulirana. Sindinkafuna kuyesa momwe zingakhalire zovuta kwa agogo anga aakazi.

Uku sikunali kutha kutuluka kwanga. Ndinalemba zolemba pa Instagram, pomwe ndinayankhula moona mtima za zomwe sindinazichite ndi mikwingwirima iwiri ndipo tinaganiza zokwatirana titaphunzira za pakati. Ndili ndi blog yaying'ono kwambiri, ndipo palibe pafupifupi chilichonse cholakwika. Koma zinali zowopsa. Nthawi yomweyo, ndidazindikira kuti ndikofunikira kutero. Ndikufuna asungwanawo akhale okonzeka kuti mikwingwirima iwiri sikuti imangokhala yofanana. 

Poyamba ndimakayikira ngati kuyeneradi kuchita konse. Koma ndinalandira kuthokoza pang'ono kuchokera kwa owerenga. Iwo analemba kuti ndinawathandiza kwambiri. Ndipo ena adavomereza moona mtima kuti adakhalapo chimodzimodzi ndipo akufuna kuwerenga zoterezi.

Amati ubongo wathu unapangidwa mwanjira yoti kusintha kulikonse kumakhala kopanikiza. Ichi ndichifukwa chake olemba nkhani amakhala amanjenje. Chifukwa chake sizosadabwitsa kuti nthawi zina nkhani yakutenga mimba imasokoneza mayi. Nthawi zina ngakhale atsikana omwe amathandizidwa chifukwa chosabereka kwanthawi yayitali amakumana ndi zovuta. Chifukwa chake, zikuwoneka zofunikira kwa ine kuti tiziuzana zoona. Zomwe zili mkati mwa gawo lachikazi. Popeza tili ndi mwayi wokhala m'nthawi ya ukazi, ndi nthawi yoti timverere malingaliro athu onse. Landirani: chilichonse chomwe mukuwona kuti ndichizolowezi. Funso lokhalo ndiloti mupeza lingaliro lotani kuchokera kumalingaliro awa ndi zomwe mupange.

Ndikufuna kupereka gawo lomaliza lalemba ili kwa mwana m'mimba mwanga. Zowonadi, miyezi isanu yomwe akhala ndi ine, wandisintha kuposa munthu wina aliyense yemwe ndidakumana naye. Ndipo sitinakumaneko ngakhale pano!

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